When I tell acquaintances and work colleagues that I’m headed out for another solo trip, I usually get peppered with questions on why my husband isn’t joining me and if everything is ok in our marriage. There’s apparently an unwritten rule that once you’re married, you’re supposed to be by your spouse’s side 24/7. Our 11-year marriage has never been better and I don’t ever plan on giving up solo travel.
This past year alone, I went to Guatemala, Belize, Mexico and Colombia without my husband and had a wonderful time. I’m also heading to India in a few weeks, although I won’t be entirely solo as I’ll be joining an Intrepid tour.
I travel sans husband for a variety of reasons such as:
Sometimes my significant other really does not want to visit a particular destination. India has never been high on his list and it would be a gigantic waste of money to pay for both of us to go. He may change his mind one day and we may revisit a destination together but I’m perfectly fine with having different travel interests.
Sometimes he can’t or doesn’t want to use his vacation time. My husband recently accepted a brand new job and while it’s great for his career, he’s only starting with 2 weeks of vacation, compared to the 4 he used to receive. Ouch. Also, as a couple working at fairly hectic companies, sometimes schedules just don’t align. He’ll sometimes take the entire month of December off because there’s not much to do but December is one of the busiest times of the year for me.
Sometimes I just want “me” time. I’m a huge introvert and while I love having my husband by my side, sometimes I just want to explore a particular destination alone, especially if it involves activities he’s not going to be interested in (such as horseback riding for multiple days at a time).
One of the huge upsides of traveling sans-spouse is that when I return home, he wants to hear every detail of my trip, whereas most people just want to hear the edited 10-minute version.
It helps that he’s always been incredibly supportive of my solo trips and realizes that frequent travel is something that I have to do. Our marriage wouldn’t have survived if I had to ask permission or argue about finances every time I wanted to go away without him.
Have you ever traveled without your spouse?